SO so so, everyone thinks they know what's best for you when your pregnant. And everyone kind of wants to steal that glory you received for procreating. I wonder if it's because they want the attention, or that some one did it to them or that they're just being plain old vindictive!
So first I felt that I had to quit my job because when I told them I was pregnant and that I didn't feel comfortable to push a heavy drinks trolley due to a previous miscarriage, they treated me like a burden. Instead of the euphoria most people experience, I was feeling like I was a let down to everyone, because I wanted to keep healthy and take precautions so I wouldn't have to experience the emotional and physical pain of going through a miscarriage.
If you think by explaining my concern to a supervisor or manager and that I was understood and they felt empathy for me...wrong. I got pulled up by a supervisor after a not so good night with morning sickness to have my opinions criticised. This 'no offence' male supervisor gave me his personal opinions on how it's not as bad as I was making it out to be, and surely I can do the trolley. And that my attitude towards my boss and the company was biased. I had him yabbing on for half and hour. I finally got to the point where I said to this man, that it sounded like he was making excuses and blowing everything way out of proportion which he responded saying 'their goes my attitude again'.
What a complete douche right! After the conversation I decided to report it to HR, because this was kind of like the final cherry on the cake for me, see when I told my boss I was pregnant I thought that being such a private and personal thing that it would be confidential. Well as soon as he got off the phone he told staff members and soon I was being treated like an alien because it inconvenienced them if I couldn't push the trolley. Seems pathetic and way too dramatic for what it really is.
Now HR being there to help the employee really just said that it wasn't a big deal and everyone is fine for me to continue with a medical certificate. The Supervisor involved got a warning, just a slap on the wrist and the manager well didn't get anything. So I did what they all wanted me to do quit. By this point I felt uncomfortable going to work, and every time I was there I would be questioned or harassed by someone. Plus my morning sickness was really preventing me from actually getting into work in the first place, so I quit.
It really isn't pleasant when you don't have support in the work place, now the reason things got so bad is because I'm not a sitting duck, I stirred the pot by defending myself. I wasn't the only pregnant person in the history of the work place, in fact their was a woman who was 7 months pregnant at the time and she didn't have to push the trolley through her entire pregnancy and no one treated her like a burden.
So that is my experience with work so far in my 1st trimester.
